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Gifted child, special needs child, or twice exceptional child? Learn to advocate for your child.

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If the above sounds interesting to you, please visit and read this blog to work on learning the language available to help you act in the best interest of your child and make #educated choices.

The ABCs of special education is #packed full of words and definitions used by #teachers #administrators#social workers and #physicians. It was written by a woman certified in Special Education in Curriculum and Instruction. She has been teaching more than 17 years and opened her home to foster children with special needs. Her adopted sons, one learning disabled and the other one twice exceptional gave her valuable first-hand experience beyond the classroom setting. She is well qualified to address questions or comments you may have to be the best advocate for your child. Her blog is Suze the Muse and the hyperlink to the article is “The ABCs of Special Education”

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School Days, School Days

In the mid-west children are on their way back to school all ready. Bus stops that have been empty this summer were surrounded with children and parents all bright eyed and excited. Moms and Dads waving good bye as their young one went on their way.

Autumn and then winter will be here before we know it . What is your special secret to keeping your children excited and wanting to go to school? Here are couple of maybe unique ideas to help:

On week ends have the children help make special treats for each day after school, that only can be eaten on days when a good job has been done at school.

Let each child make a special jar, call it a savings jar, decorated by them. Put the jars away and bring out one day each week (selected by you). Let your child put some money in the jar if they were kind to someone they do not normally hang with. Save the money for a special outing. Should the child decide what the special outing will be ?

Motivate your child to want to go to school. Make the world of learning more fun and enjoyable.

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Craziness or Calm and serene!

What does a bedtime schedule mean to you and your family especially during the school year? Must -have an early morning schedule also? Does the summertime give you a first class chance to evaluate your household and determine what you like and don’t like. If you had to draw a picture of bedtime or even early morning in your home what would it look like? Like a tunnel with work to be done on either side and you struggling to get out.

Everything written about blogging focuses on planning and being organized and this is simply the same type of planning that is going to benefit you and help with those words calm and serene:

Meal planning – Benefit you for either breakfast or supper. Find easy recipes especially for the summer time that are light yet filling and easy to clean up after. Breakfast is a meal and therefore needs to be planned for.

Everyone participates in cleaning the dishes up. Resort to using paper plates if that eliminates a source of friction. The older children in the family can help with the younger ones. Your kitchen clean and dishes put away, will make you feel so much better.

Begin now to think what changes you want to make for homework. Do a chart, let everyone be involved in the brainstorming. Put it up for everyone to read and give you input. Fill the chart with everything (appointments, work schedules, sports and games) and be ready with changes before the school year begins.

What chores do you have that absolutely need to be done in the morning or evening? Can you do one thing each evening so you are not leaving this mind boggling mountain of work to be done on the weekend. Maybe you work weekends and that mountain of work would not be cool, especially for the person doing the care giving.

Bedtimes! Establish a bedtime routine and stick with it. Remember with bedtime comes bathing, snacks, reading space, television time, video time, game playing and of course, the horrible laying out of clothing during the school year. Set rules for morning time also and figure out how to eliminate the big meltdowns that occur.

Plan what you are going to do with some relaxation time. Pamper time, craft time, begin to work on that life changing blog, start thinking about essential oils and the amazing scents available for a relaxing moment or two. Input needed from that wonderful person in your life who is involved in all of this.

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Personal health – well taken care of?

Rewriting a blog called personal health , good! bad! Personal health well taken care of is what I am calling it now and am asking you to decide if your health is magnificient, unbelieveable or not so good.

Here are some eye-opening questions to pose to yourself. Just because you are a young adult, does not mean you are healthy or make healthy choices. Ten years from now will you be saying to yourself, if only I had listened.

Do you take care of your health on a regular basis? Do you have preventive health and use it in a positive manner. Do you consider carefully what your physician is telling you?

Are you reluctant to step on the scale at the physician’s office? Do you share with your physician your eating habits? Do you understand what a diet is and how to go on one? Do you share in the cooking at your house? Do you go out to eat too much? Do you drink too much!

What do you do about exercise? We are talking about exercise here, not playing video games?

Are you open with your physician about personal questions! Do you know where to go to get help if you are in an abusive relationship? Are you willing to get help?

How often do you see your dentist. Oral hygiene is very important! Bad teeth can often impact your health.

Stay positive and try to improve those things that you can improve. One day at a time.

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What does the word poor mean to your family!

Here we are almost to June and reflecting on how your family would define poor!

Rewriting this blog as I felt it needed updating from January.   Sometimes poor is a state of mind and other times we just don’t know how to manage our lives. How to say no!  We slide from one mess to another instead of taking time to focus on cleaning up one mess, before getting into another one.  Some families give the appearance, as do their children of being very wealthy, when they are living off credit cards, owe everyone, are scared to death of what the next day is going to bring.

Remind your children, grandchildren, stepchildren,  what they have to be really grateful about such as:

Love from parents grandparents . May not always show it, but it is there.

A family that stays together, even when the going gets so tough.

A chance to pray! Reflect! Meditate.

A roof over their heads.  Utilities that are paid so you have heat in the winter, and are able to be cool in the summer.

A chance to save if you have a job.  Get a savings plan started so you will feel rich when you see how it has grown.

Food on the table.

Pets and more pets and then more pets.

Clothing, maybe not the most expensive, but why would you want expensive anyway, in a couple of months you will have grown and need new outfits.

Friends who are allowed to come to your house.

With summer fast approaching we need  to remind our children to get outside and play.  Exercise, ride bicycles, help with laundry, keep the house clean  or help work in the yard.

Journal about your summer and what your child, children do to make it a good summer.#definepoor#parents#savings

 

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Mother’s Day and Father’s Day!

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day will be here before we know it  Everyone is trying to make it a special day, but my question to you is how are parents treated the rest of the time?  Not everyone is a bad parent!

Good! Bad! Indifferent?  With respect or not.  Parents have a job to learn just like the rest of the world and it is not always easy. They are not supposed to be a friend.  Think about it.  Who is there for you when an emergency room visit has to be made?  Who is there for you when the teacher has to share a bad event?  Who sits up or stays awake at night until they know you are safely in the house? Who is out looking for you when there is no answer on your phone?  There are numerous other situations I could list here having been there myself.  It’s called being a parent.  It doesn’t mean they don’t love you, again it called being a parent.

Problem is that many times there are events happening in a family that bring out the worst in family members. Tempers are on short string.  Angry things are said and feelings are hurt.  That means changes have to be made and that is always difficult.  Logically it is like putting together a puzzle once piece at a time and re-adjusting of pieces may have to be done.  There has to be respect. There has to be discipline.

Oh, I know what you are thinking, we have heard all of this before.  Then everyone, adult children living at home, teenagers, middle school children and the young in the family are not pulling together to change.   Does everyone think before they speak?  I say pick your battles carefully.   Stop feeling sorry for yourself!   Remember who the parents are.  Respect everyone, but that respect must be earned and mutual.  That is a full time job in itself.

 

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Case managers!  What is/are their roles?

 

Their role is to follow up, either before, during or after a medical event. That is their job! Problem is to learn how to work effectively, efficiently and pleasantly with them.

Just sat down to watch your favorite TV program or supper is ready and you want to eat before it is cold. The phone rings and it is your case manager!  Oh no, but remember this is his/her job to be sure you are following the directions given to you by your physician/counselor.

Case Managers job is important so why not compromise with he/she and set up a plan that is workable for both of you.

  1. Establish an appropriate time for the call. Find out if this call will be weekly, monthly or otherwise.
  2. Find out what information will be needed for each call, such as blood pressure readings. Maybe you are working on a weight loss plan and your case manager/case coordinator needs to know number of pounds lost or gained.
  3. What about balance issues. Will this be a topic of discussion during the call? Do you use a cane or a walker?  Have you fallen?
  4. Is physical therapy necessary due to your condition? Be ready to discuss briefly, but truthfully.
  5. Counseling? Considered part of the plan or not? Was it recommended as part of your care plan?

OK! You have a case manager!  Be prepared for the call.  Discuss what else is available, if current plan is not working.  Always be sure your options are covered by your health plan.#casemanager#casecoordinator#healthplans#weightloss

Revised from 9/23/18

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Dancing! Kindness! Having a blast!

At the event we attended this last weekend, there was a young lady, and I do mean young, somewhat overweight dressed in a lovely party dress.
 
When I first noticed her she was on the dance floor, having a blast following all the dance steps with one of our older granddaughter’s. These were the dances that the younger generations love to move with.
 
She never faltered in her steps and following , our granddaughter in whatever she did. Making her shoulders and hips move as our granddaughter’s did. Wanted to thank our granddaughter for caring and her kindness.
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I heard later that this young lady is not always treated nicely at the school she attends. Made my heart sad, but I say kudos to her, for getting up to dance and for having a terrific time dancing her heart out.  She could have just sat in her chair.
 
I need to think about this but maybe what is known today as bullying is something I can talk more about another day#dancing#blast#terrific time
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Broken Ankle Wedding! Did we manage?

Going to a wedding this weekend.  Our grandson Colin is getting married to very nice young lady.  Getting married in March is risky, but getting married in January is even riskier.

Our daughter Mary came home many years ago and said, Jeff and I would like to get married in January.  I believe I shrieked, January, we could have a blizzard. You never know in Indiana.

Two days before the wedding, my husband went to make the final payment on the hall for the reception with another daughter and her husband.  The parking lot at the hall was very icy and he fell.  He came home with a very swollen ankle and could not stand on it.  To make a long story short, we went to the emergency room the next morning and he insisted on a walking cast for his broken ankle.

The day of the wedding was beautiful.  The bride was walked down the isle by her father in his walking cast.  He even danced with her at the reception.

The moral of the story plan all your wedding either in the good old hot summer or the beauty of fall.

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Creative Magic? Maybe! Great grand baby quilt.

We are going to begin looking at baby quilt fabric and decide on what fabric the mother to be would like.  It may end up not being baby fabric at at all. It could be something #supercreative and #inspiremagic!  Sarah is very creative with a good eye for design and color.

All our grandchildren have or had a Sam Henry quilt made for them when they were smaller.  Another day we shall talk about that quilt pattern.  I found it in a magazine many many years ago, have no idea the name of the magazine, or the designer’s name. If anyone knows the name of the pattern designer ( and can substantiate it) I would love to give credit when I do a blog on it.  More later.

It was decided that perhaps for the great grandchildren we should come up with another pattern and set a tradition for them.  So stay with us and see what is the outcome. On my Pinterest I am  looking for #baby items, animals to make, #different fabrics and boy and girl things right now  So my #sewing board, #quilt board and #great grand baby board should become interesting.